So since the last post a lot has been happening in our crazy little life.
I posted before who the needs of the Army trumped the needs of our family and Mr.Snider was whisked away overseas for a year. Well we are now 1/2 way done and have 6 months more before he should be heading home to us.
In the mean time back here in the Sates I have been holding down the fort and juggling all the day to day (and than some) by myself with no one to help me. Yes I know many single parents do this everyday. And to some I have no right to complain because I "chose" this life. Well I am complaining because I did not choose this life I choose HIM. He chose the Army before we got married. I did not marry him with the prior knowledge that every 2 years he will be shipped off to a foreign country. I married him knowing that we would move every few years and that there would be a chance of him deploying a few times during his career. I married him when he just reenlisted and re-classed to what he was told a stable MOS. and WE made plans based off the information given to us about the prospects of that job. I did not marry him knowing that 5 years in he will have to change MOSs again and our whole plan, our whole lives (our son's included) would be changed drastically virtually overnight all because of the phrase "needs of the ARMY". I would marry Mr.Snider again in a heart beat even if I had the chance to go back with all this information. I would CHOOSE HIM. With that being said I did not chose a life where my husband is MIA for a year every 2 years. Which leaves me holding the overflowing, about to exploded it's contents bag here at the homefront.
I am struggling. I struggle when Mr.Snider is home with me. I have several health issues and a few can be debilitating and prevent me from doing simple things like a load of laundry. I have struggling with mental health issues since I was a young girl and as an adult I was formerly diagnosed with Cyclothymia, OCD, ADHD and Anxiety. Also since and early age I have had Chronic Daily headaches and migraines sometimes the pain is so intense I need help to get to the bath. I have learned how to mask and cope with most of my day to day symptoms but like I said there are times when I can't and these things stop me in my tracks. And when you are a mother and a wife you can't just stop and take endless time to "do you" like one can when you are single. So Mr.Snider helped in the house and he helped with our son when I was unable to do the basics. Now when he is away I have to fight even harder to get the day to day done on top of making sure my health does not stop me in my tracks. Which can be hard at times when you are raising a child with special needs.
Little Mr. is 6, he was diagnosed with Level 2 Autism 10 months ago. We suspected for years that he may be Autistic but without a Dr. willing to test him until he was 5 we had to sit and wait. While our world/life did not change much since the diagnose it has changed some. We now travel for ABA 3 times a week and Little Mr. has more meltdowns due to stress of doing that and school. We have made mild small improvements that if you just meet him you would not know/notice they were there but for those that have known him a while see the small changes and where ABA is still a work in progress.
Here is a photo of our little trio.
